📚 How to Be the Love You Seek by Dr. Nicole LePera
This book is all about relationships — romantic, family, friendship — but she comes at them through the body, not just the mind: attachment wounds, survival strategies, and dysregulated nervous systems are framed as the real drivers of conflict and disconnection. Dr. Nicole LePera, known as known as “The Holistic Psychologist,” shows how unmet childhood needs script our patterns (people‑pleasing, shutdown, chasing, avoiding), then offers somatic tools, boundary work, and communication shifts so you can create the safety, honesty, and intimacy you’ve been seeking from others.
Dr. Nicole LePera is a holistic psychologist, trained in clinical psychology and rooted in nervous-system science, who built a global audience of millions through her “Holistic Psychologist” platform and bestselling work on self‑healing. Her focus on attachment, trauma, and relationships comes directly from years in private practice and from untangling her own history of enmeshment, people‑pleasing, and shutdown in her family of origin, which makes her uniquely equipped to translate complex theory into grounded tools for healing real‑world relationships.
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When you feel anxious, wired, or can’t fall asleep.
When you want calm alertness or steady emotional tone.
What are three things you love about yourself? ... If you're coming up blank, this one's for you.
Touch the Earth with bare skin to balance your body's electrical charge and positively affect inflammation, mood, pain, and more.
When you need deep emotional or energetic clearing.
Process trauma & regulate the body with rhythmic, alternating side-to-side taps, sounds, or visuals.
3… 2… 1… drop into your body and connect with yourself anytime, anywhere.
Mindfully journey through your body to identify, connect with, and release places of tension, stored emotion, or resistance.
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Find common ground with anyone using a simple 4-step language that hears feelings & needs beneath blame — unlocking empathy in the toughest conversations.
A beginner's roadmap to self-healing — rewiring trauma patterns via somatic practices, establishing boundary rituals, facing ego, and reparenting your inner child.
An opportunity to shift your personal energy.
A bold, unflinching look at why long-term love so often kills desire — and how to rekindle erotic aliveness without blowing up your life.
Downloadable PDF created by Brené Brown.
Learn to identify, process, and articulate 87 distinct emotions in order to courageously build deeper, more authentic relationships.
Care for “little you” by giving them space to be heard, felt, and nurtured in the ways you needed as a child — then gently reparent, so together you can begin to restore a sense of safety and love.
Learn EMDR self-help techniques like eye movements & bilateral tapping to process buried traumas and free yourself from the past.
Meet your "parts of self" — the inner critic, addict, people-pleaser, and wounded child — not as problems to fix, but as parts longing for your care with the Internal Family Systems (IFS) model.
Your core beliefs & repetitive thoughts shape your health, relationships, and life circumstances — learn metaphysical principles & simple affirmations to transform your experience.
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